New Dads – Changing Nappies

This post is the first in what l hope will be a series aimed at Dads.

This first post is aimed mainly at new dads and is on the subject of nappies.
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Lets be honest the thought of changing a stinky nappy is not that apealing but over the next few years that little bundle of joy is going to need its nappy changed more times than you have hot dinners.

Changing a babies nappy is a brilliant way of bonding with your child and will mean its one less job for the already tired Mummy, and trust me she will appreciate it.

In the early stages you’re not expected to be an expert but that will come with practice. The main things to remember are to make sure everywhere is cleaned up with either clean warm water or suitable baby wipes, next make sure everywhere is dry so they don’t get sore. If they are already sore use some cream to help sooth. Finally remember to put on a clean nappy, put it on securely but not too tightly. Have a read of this for some more tips for easier nappy changes.

Try and use this time to sing or just entertain them, try not too do this in the middle of the night when others are sleeping it won’t go down well.

It’s important to remember that you must work as a team, its not going to work if both of you are tired.

Try to enjoy these early days as before you know it they are crawling around your feet and you’ll wish they were still sleeping 18 hours a day.

Lunchtime Help

With Aly starting Primary school in September I have just one concern, and that is lunchtime.

To put it mildly she’s a slow eater and at home can take 50mins just eating a basic lunch of sandwiches and crisps. Her main problem is talking to much or watching TV and I know at school they are limited to 30mins for lunch and 30mins ‘playing’.

At pre-school the other day she said she didn’t eat her crisps or banana as she ran out of time but if she does this at school by mid afternoon she’ll be so hungry.

My question is should we now start to set the time and say if she hasn’t eaten her lunch within this time then we will be taking it away?Its not like she’s a big eater at the best of time but I worry she’ll just get so hungry or do you think she’ll soon learn when she’s at school?

Mood Swings

One of the changes that you will probably have already noticed in your Daughter are the constant mood swings! As a Parent you will find these mood swings totally confusing and quite frustrating!! Yep, it is true, even I can find them totally bewildering! Like, who is the alien in my kitchen stomping around and sighing? Why does she look at me as if I am a one eyed monster who just came out of a swamp! Do I really look completely bonkers?

But there are lots of ways you can cope:

Mood Swings can be tension, irritability or crying spells. Try to remember that Teenagers have more hormones flying around their bodies now then We Adults do! Yes you know those bad days that you sometimes get before your own period? Well your Daughter is experiencing lots more of those lately due to the many changes that your Daughter is going through. She may still feel like a child, yet she is noticing these body changes and it could be both scary and a little bit embarassing for her. She may be worried about how she looks more and want to be accepted by her peers. There is a reason that she doesn’t want to wear that sensible hat and scarf that Grandma gave her for Christmas even though it is -10 outside!

She might be excited about these changes too so there may be fluctuations in how she acts from day to day. Like coming over and giving you a hug and saying she loves you, just after she had a hissy fit because the internet connection wasn’t working! Sometimes it is difficult for us Adults to remember how we felt back when We were her age so try to understand if you can what it must be like with all of the confusing feelings and emotions for your child to have to cope with!

Try to focus on the good things that you love most about your Daughter and be encouraging and supportive when she tells you about her day or her life in school. Be very encouraging when she does something kind or nice. Yes even the cup of tea she made with way too much milk in it! And the washing of the dishes with a sigh big enough to blow out all the candles on your cake!

A hug, although not always received with the greatest of enthusiasm is always a good one too! She needs to feel secure and know that she can rely on you no matter what. Keep the lines of communication open. (yes, even if she thinks the latest album by Jedward is the best thing ever, listen to it and agree or just smile)!

Yes, mood swings can be very difficult to deal with. And indeed although you may try to understand what they are going through, lots of girls find it embarassing to talk about. Just be there for her and count to ten…. be supportive and offer love and encouragement and perhaps chocolate!! (always a good idea)

Oh! and also remember…it won’t last forever! Yay!

This piece was written by the brilliant Funky Goddess who can also be found on twitter @funkygodessirl

NICK JR. LAUNCHES HELP DORA HELP 2012

NICK JR. LAUNCHES HELP DORA HELP 2012
Second Year of Campaign is set to Award £20,000

London, 17th May, 2012 – Nick Jr., the award-winning pre-school channel from the Nickelodeon network, today announces the 2012 launch Help Dora Help, the campaign that brings exploration to life in nurseries and pre-schools across the UK.

The campaign, supported by The Prince’s Foundation for Children & the Arts consists of a free activity pack, giving nurseries and pre-schools educational activity resources. Nurseries will also have the opportunity to apply for an award of £20,000. The pack follows the Early Years Foundation Stage development goals and contains six activity session plans that provide stimulating learning opportunities with the theme of Dora the Explorer’s adventures. The themes for this year’s pack are: Cooking, Sports Day, Fairy Tales, Animals, Seaside and Music.

Registration is now open at nickjr.co.uk/helpdorahelp for nurseries to apply for a pack. They have until 22nd July to work through the activities with their pre-schoolers and put together their application for the £20,000 award.

Once this year’s applications have been submitted, an expert panel led by Nick Jr.’s Wake Up World Helena Dowling, alongside Nick Jr. representatives and partners including The Prince’s Foundation, Dora Magazine and Chad Valley will choose five finalists. The public will then be able to vote for their favourite application and decide who is awarded the £20,000.

Each of the five finalists will be awarded discovery and learning equipment from Chad Valley as well as a classroom visit from Dora the Explorer and all five finalists’ award bids will be filmed and aired on Nick. Jr.

In 2011, Hope Nursery School in Belfast was selected. With the award the Nursery selected to build a play area featuring numerous play structures, a puppet theatre, garden, sand and water area.

Tina McCann, MD Nickelodeon UK, said: “The quality of applications in 2011’s Help Dora Help campaign were incredible. We’re delighted with the way the award has been used at Hope Nursery and equally excited to engage with pre-schoolers and practitioners across the country once more throughout 2012.”

Nurseries and pre-schools can apply for the free Help Dora Help Activity Pack and Award Fund at www.nickjr.co.uk.

My Shit List

I’ve been thinking of doing this for a while, its mainly a bot of fun and will get added to over the course of the year as people and things get added to it.

Most of the things on here have no real meaning as to why they are on here they just are and its my list so I can add what I want.

Ants - What actual purpose do they serve?

Drivers who don’t signal – Am I meant to guess which way you plan on going?

People who stop in front of you when walking – The next time this happens I will clout you around the back of the head

People who think they can raise my kids better than me – Advice is fine if I asked but don’t ever make out you can raise my children better than me.

The Super-Rich – Oh my life’s so hard…feck off you don’t have to work again and you have chefs and maids.

Jordan – The ‘person’ not the country. What use is she?

Ferne Cotton – I used to be able to listen to her on the radio but now she just winds me up

I’m sure there are loads more but I shall stop now otherwise I’ll sound like a mad man.

Please feel free to add your suggestions.

 

Weight problems

Let me first start by staying this is not me showing off or anything like that, this is an actual problem.

I am about 1 1/2 to 2 stone under weight for my height and everything etc.

I know all the comments will be just eat more, trust me I can eat pretty much anyone under the table. My average daily calorie intake is around 3000 – 3500, some days it goes over 4000.

I used to go to the gym and have done the protein shakes but nothing. I’m not that active, my work involves lifting and moving about but it still doesn’t burn off that many calories.

Below is my average days food consumption.

Breakfast – 7.30am

  • Bowl of cereal with semi skimmed milk
  • Banana

Snack – 10.30am

  • two small chocolate bars

Lunch – 12pm

  • Chicken sandwich
  • Pack of crisps
  • Cake

Afternoon Snack – 3.00pm

  • Go Ahead Bar
  • Fruit
  • Yougart

Dinner – 5.30pm

  • Full meal with vegetables
  • Bowl of ice cream with banana and chocolate sauce

Evening Snack – 7.30pm

  • Either donuts/chocolate crossaint or a pack of Jaffa Cakes

Tea – 9.00pm

  • Cup of tea
  • 6 biscuits to dunk

If its the weekend or my day off I’ll have all that plus two large cookies with a cup of tea at 10am and I’ll have beans on toast or egg on toast for lunch.

I think I need more calories at breakfast to up the intake. I do also drink 2lt of water during the course of the day plus apple juice.

If anyone has any tips or can help please leave me a comment.

Growing up with an alcoholic

Let me start by saying that I’m not talking about my wife or I.

As far back as I can remember a member of my immediate family has been an alcoholic. When you’re a kid you don’t really know or understand then you hit your teen years and everything becomes a lot clearer.

The person I’m talking about is my mum. She may or may not like me writing this, to be honest she’ll never read it. The first thing to say about this is I don’t hate her and have never not loved her.

When I was younger I remember her enjoying a whiskey of an evening and wine with dinner but at that age I didn’t think anything of it. Even when she fell asleep on the sofa while watching tv again I thought nothing of it. It’s only now when I look back I understand she was drunk every evening.

She never got angry or shouted at me or my sister, she was more depressed. I don’t think she knew that as we got older it hurt us and we knew what was going on.

Due to her drinking problems she got into money troubles, lost her job and in the end had to move house due to her not being able to afford the mortgage. We tried getting her help but unless they want to be helped its near impossible.

We had moments where she’d stop drinking for a period of time then it would all come crumbling down. Sometimes it would go very wrong and she would fall over and end up in hospital.

There was an occasion where she was inside her house and was crashed out and I had to somehow climb on to a roof and through a small upstairs window.

There was a time when I thought I’d receive ‘the’ call but thankfully it never came.

Like all teenagers I went through a drinking faze but when I realised the problems at home I cut all drinking out and still now I very rarely drink and I know the problems and heartache it can cause.

I often feel so low that I can’t help her but if she doesn’t help herself there’s very little I can do.

Hobbies

With two young children I tend not to get much time to myself but I’d like to find a new hobby. the hobby would have to be done of an evening. Basically my life revolves around my girls and work. Plus I spend virtually all evening on Twitter which has become a bit of an addiction.

Over the years I’ve always played sport but that stopped when children came along. I used to play football, tennis, golf, running and going to the gym. All of these I enjoyed but are kind of out to the question as they normally involve playing on a Saturday which is when I have the girls on my own.

I’m really not artistic so playing music or drawing is a nonstarter. I really enjoy photography and whenever I can I take photos but it’s still not the hobby I crave.

Cooking is something I’ve grown to love but again it’s not something I can just do of an evening.

I think I’d enjoy learning a language but I’m not smart enough to do that, most things don’t stick in my brain.

I’m slowly running out of options, I’ve always fancied stand up comedy but haven’t got the confidence to get up on stage to do that, even though I’d happily make a YouTube video of it…hmmm maybe that’s an idea?!

If you have any ideas don’t be shy

A helping hand for Valentine’s Day

Own up how many of you have forgotten Valentine’s Day in the past…I know I have!

Thankfully this year, Next comes to the rescue by playing Cupid’s assistant with their Valentine’s Gift and Outfit Selector.

Whether you’re a guy or a girl, if you are worried about what to buy the love of your life, you can use the app to answer a few easy questions about your loved one and the Gift Selector will ingenuously come up with gift ideas suited to their personality. OR if you are looking for outfit inspiration, it takes just a few clicks to give the outfit finder all the info it needs to come up with a smoking hot Valentine’s Day outfit.

And the good news for the less organised amongst us… you can order before 9pm for Next Day Delivery service. If you still need more choice, you can see a further selection of dresses and shoes to make the perfect Valentine’s outfit on Next.co.uk

This is perfect for people like me who always leave things till the very last moment.

 

 

Prostate Cancer…Guys get checked

This is a serious blog post about Prostate Cancer.

Hope fully this will raise just a little bit of thought to guys to get themselves checked out. Even if just one person gets checked from reading this then I have helped in some little way.

The prostate is a small gland found only in men.

It is the size of a walnut and surrounds the first part of the tube (urethra) which carriesurine from the bladder to the penis.

The prostate produces a thick white fluid called semen that mixes with the sperm produced by the testes. It also produces a protein called prostate-specific antigen (PSA) that turns the semen into liquid.

The gland is surrounded by a sheet of muscle and a fibrous capsule. The growth of prostate cells and the way the prostate gland works is dependent on the male sex hormone, testosterone, which is produced in the testicles.

The back of the prostate gland is close to the rectum (back passage). Near to the prostate are collections of lymph nodes. These are small glands, about the size of a baked bean.

In the UK about 1 in 14 men are diagnosed with prostate cancer in their lifetime. In the USA the incidence is much higher. This is thought to be due to the fact that in the USA more men have tests to try to detect early prostate cancer.

Risk factors and causes of prostate cancer

The number of men being diagnosed with cancer of the prostate gland in the UK (and many other countries) has increased in recent years.  It is thought that the incidence is increasing because more men are having tests that detect very early prostate cancers that would previously not have been found. It may also be because the number of older men in the population is growing.

Researchers are trying to find out more about the causes of prostate cancer. Although the causes of cancer of the prostate are still unknown, there are some factors that are known to increase a man’s chance of developing the disease.

The strongest risk factor for prostate cancer is age. Men under 50 have a very low risk of prostate cancer, but their risk increases as they get older. It’s estimated that around 80% of men in their 80s will have prostate cancer.

Some ethnic groups have a higher chance of developing prostate cancer than others. For example, black African and black Caribbean men are more likely to develop prostate cancer than white men. Asian men have a lower risk of developing it.

Men who have close relatives (a father, brother, grandfather or uncle) who have had prostate cancer are slightly more likely to develop it themselves. It is thought that a man’s risk of developing prostate cancer is more likely if:

  • their father or brother developed prostate cancer at or under the age of 60
  • more than one man on the same side of the family has had prostate cancer.

If this is the case in your family it may indicate that a faulty gene is present. However, a specific gene linked to prostate cancer has not yet been identified.

If several women in a family have had breast cancer (especially before the age of 40), it could also indicate that a faulty gene may be present. This gene may increase the risk of men in the family getting prostate cancer. Only a small number of prostate cancers (5-10% or less than 1 in 10 cases) are thought to be due to an inherited faulty gene in the family.

If you are worried about your family history see our section about cancer genetics and prostate cancer.

It is thought that a diet high in animal fat (including dairy products) and low in fresh fruit and vegetables may increase your risk of prostate cancer. A high intake of calcium (such as from dairy foods) may increase the risk of developing prostate cancer.

Tomatoes and tomato products (such as ketchup) may help to protect against prostate cancer. This may be because they contain high levels of a substance called lycopene.

Prostate cancer generally affects men over 50, and is rarely found in younger men. It is the commonest type of cancer in men. Around 34,000 men in the UK are diagnosed with prostate cancer each year.

It differs from most other cancers in the body, in that small areas of cancer within the prostate are very common and may stay dormant (inactive) for many years.

Approximately one half of all men in their fifties have some cancer cells within their prostate and 8 out of 10 men (80%) over the age of 80 have a small area of prostate cancer. Most of these cancers grow extremely slowly and so, particularly in elderly men, will never cause any problems.

In a small proportion of men, the prostate cancer can grow more quickly and in some cases may spread to other parts of the body, particularly the bones.

All of this information was taken from MacMillan. Please if you have any worries contact them or your doctor.